The Art of Male
Masturbation (From a sex therapist)
Three techniques for Teenager's to Octogenarians. Plus a little about menopausal
women and their men.
OVERVIEW:
Any male reading the above title would initially think, "what a stupid
subject, it doesn't take a manual to know how to masturbate." They would
be correct in that assumption of course. But it takes time and experience
to receive the full joys of self manipulation.
As an example, The average boy when first discovering this new-found past
time, will jerk-off many times each day. Just the feeling of release is
enough to satisfy his needs. This state goes on for many years. But as the
boy grows into a man and begins to have sexual relations with other human
beings, the tendency is to
search for technique and quality of experience rather than just 'getting
off'.
The following are three of the most popular ways that men masturbate. Read
these techniques carefully, they can be used in combinations that will give
much pleasure for years to come.
PREPARATION:
It is suggested as a preparation for masturbation, that the participant obtain
external stimuli (ES). The most popular form of (ES) is written pornography.
The advantage to (ES) material is that when reading about sexual situations
your masturbitory experience is heightened ten-fold. There are many good
authors erotic stories.
They can be readily obtained on the internet, or at any adult orientated
store. (you must be at least 18 years old to legally obtain these materials)
Before going into manual techniques, let me say a couple of things about
preparation. Take your time. To receive full enjoyment from your experience
find a time and place where you can masturbate without fear of interruption.
Also have the materials easily at hand for clean-up afterwards. This may
sound obvious to
everyone, but I mention it, only because you need to remove any outside worry's.
To fully enjoy your coming orgasm, it is best to turn your thoughts inward,
with as little external stimuli as possible.
Lay completely unclothed on your bed. Begin to read an erotic story. Do not
touch yourself until you feel the first drop of pre-cum drip onto your skin.
(This is important as preparation to technique One especially)
At that time you are full prepared to begin your manual manipulation.
TECHNIQUES:
- Slip N' Slide
(SNS)
Once your pre-cum has begun to flow, (Without manual manipulation) The male
should begin to slowly spread his semen over his erect penis with thumb
and fingers. Taking the penis loosely between his fingers and thumb as if
writing a letter. Let the head of the penis gently rub against your the
valley between thumb and fore-finger. The combination between the slickness
of the distributed pre-come, and the erotic story you are reading will give
the closest experience to sex with a woman as possible.
Again, in this technique it is important not to hurry. If the male performs
the (SNS) technique correctly, the orgasm should 'sneak' up on him. There
should be the thought in the back of the man's mind that is something like,
"Wow, I'm going to come any second, and I couldn't stop from doing so, no
matter how hard I tried." The male should slow his manipulation down at
this time, and let the sensation build slowly. He should have a very slick
erection fingers rubbing his shaft effortlessly.
NOTE: To increase the intensity of a (SNS) orgasm, just when the male begins
to ejaculate, he should raise his legs from the waist, while continuing
to lay flat on his back. Legs should be either just a few inches off the
bed, or pointing toward the ceiling. (Each male will find his preferred
position) The added strain of the stomach muscles will greatly intensify
the orgasmic spasms.
- Stand N' Jerk
(SNJ)
When a man stands while masturbating his cardiovascular system is at a heightened
level. This will change the overall intense feeling of his experience. Reading
erotica or visual stimuli is still recommended for this style. The best
place to perform Stand N' Jerk (SNJ) is in the participants bathroom. The
advantages are obvious, privacy, mirrors, and easy clean up.
The average male should begin the (SNJ) technique by viewing pictures or
reading erotic stories. (Of course it's not necessary, but it will heighten
the orgasm) The same suggestions apply as to position and style of 'hand
manipulation' as described in technique ONE. As the male reaches his orgasmic
state, (if he performed his masturbation as out lined) will feel a tightness
in his legs, most markedly in the thighs. Just as the participant's orgasm
is almost upon him, he should stop manual manipulation, but continue to
hold his erect penis. (The right moment for this is just as he feels the
spasms being forced from the prostate gland)
If the participant did every step correctly, he should, at the final moment
before ejaculation, see clear seaman spurt out. The feeling at this moment
should be extremely pleasurable. This is called 'Pre-Orgasm'. After several
spurts of clear semen, the full orgasm should begin. At this point the 'milky'
semen will begin to spurt, bringing on another even more powerful set of
orgasmic spasms. The (SNJ) technique, if performed correctly, will give
the participant a 'double' orgasm, lasting twice as long as normal manipulation
would allow.
- Chinese Position
Called "Chinese" only because in the 19th century when this position first
became popular in opium dens in England, the participant's would say, "Giving
a little life to China." This may sound rather obscure, but let me
explain. The Chinese Position is basically where the man lays on his
stomach while masturbating. This position takes a little imagination on
the man's part, because he must find the props to allow him to lay face
down and still be able to 'jerk-off'. In the nineteenth century men who
visited the opium dens had a choice, they could have a privet pallet to
enjoy a little solo action, and when they came their sperm would shoot toward
'China - the other side of the world' hence the name 'Chinese Position".
They also had the option of having a Chinese woman under their specially
constructed pallet, who would give them oral stimulation. (Another and more
meaningful reason to call it the "Chinese Position")
The best way to situate ones self in this position has been to use a couple
of chairs, or if twin beds are available (such as in a motel room) to move
them close enough together to allow the man to lay over the 'crack'. The
hand should act as a vagina (held steady while the male performs humping
motions)
The advantage to this position is that the male can 'hump' and more closely
imitate actual sex with a woman. Also, (after placing a towel on the floor)
he can reach orgasm and release without having to worry about aim or clean
up. This position gives the male a since of freedom of release, very similar
to that of the orgasmic release he gets with a woman.
There are another 234 known techniques and positions for male masturbation,
but the ones outlined here are by far the most popular among men worldwide.
It is a normal progression for men as they grow older to take longer to
reach orgasm. The reason for this is both physiological and psychological.
On the one hand as the body matures semen production slackens, also the
male organ, although just as sensitive at in the teenage years, responds
differently to external stimuli. And psychologically, a desensitizing effect
takes place with experience. Anything, even sex can become routine.
The average American couple at age 25 will have sex 300 times a year. At
45 this same couple will only be experiencing sexual relations 75 times
a year. During the initial menopausal years for the wife (50-55) the sexual
contact can drop to as low as 12 times a year. During this time masturbation
becomes important to males in this category. The typical male even at 60,
needs regular sexual release. It is one of the best cardiovascular exercise
available. (recent tests show that males who have at least two orgasms a
week live 30% longer that males who don't)
A ray of hope for those men experiencing the menopausal stage. It usually
only lasts during transitional stages. The post menopausal woman can have
a more forceful and inventive sex drive than she did in her 20's. Be patient,
and keep in mind that, 'all good things come to those willing to wait'.
FEMALE MENOPAUSE
"Good Sex". Anything worth doing takes effort. The same thing applies
to a good sex life. Don't treat your partner as if she's a vestal virgin.
Share your feelings, wants, and needs with her. If you are reading sexy
stories to masturbate to, bring your woman into it with you. You just
might be surprised at her positive reaction. (You will know how fast to
do this, some women will not respond, but most will surprise you.) A suggestion.
If your sex life is non-existent, try wearing nothing to bed. And when you
wake up with that erection in the morning, bring your partners hand to it.
Get her used to touching it, try to make it a morning tradition. If she
loves you, she'll start doing it more and more, you just have to get her
used to the idea. This is a good way to get her thinking about sex during
the day.
Another suggestion, whenever the mood strikes (and you have an erection)
and when it seems right, expose it. Let her see you erect. A good time is
at night, when you are going to bed. She's brushed her teeth and is laying
in bed while you're in the bathroom. Get hard, then walk to your side of
the bed sporting your lust for her to see. At the very least you'll get
a comment, and at the very best you'll get sex. Remember, you are the one
that (during this period in her life) who must be the instigator.
One last note: Give her an orgasm. That will do the most to get her 'back
in the saddle' again. Let her be on top, so she can control her own manipulations.